When a family reunion outgrows the potluck: the tell is the host family cooking for three days
A family reunion runs on assigned dishes for as long as that works. One branch brings the greens, another brings the beans, and the meal costs the family almost nothing.
It stops working at a size, not on a date. Convention puts the break near fifty guests across three generations, though the tell is simpler than a number: the host family cooks for three days and then misses the reunion it organized.
Two other signs say the same thing. Nobody can name who is bringing a main course. And the same three relatives cooked last time, and the time before.


